Elderly Couple Forced to Separate At Christmas After 70 Years!
Can you imagine being with the love of your life for 70 years and then being forced to separate especially at Christmas? How awful! That’s what happened to this couple. Check out their heartwarming story and last kiss.
Evidently Herbert Goodine, 91, was ordered to leave the nursing home where he slept in the same bed with this wife of 70 years, Audrey, 89. Sadly the request came the week before Christmas.
Unfortunately, Herbert’s health it seems had declined too far for staff to look after him, so they had to move him to comply with legal requirements.
Mr. Goodine’s daughter Dianne Phillips asked the home in Perth-Andover, New Brunswick if they could delay moving him until after Christmas but staff refused.
You would think at Christmas, they would have more sympathy for Herbert, but nope!
So Ms. Phillips did what most caring individuals do, she used social media to vent.
Ms. Phillips wrote on Sunday:
‘This is one sad Christmas story for Herbert and Audrey Goodine who reside at Victoria Villa Special Care Home in Perth Andover, NB.
‘I wanted to share with the FB community the planned separation of my parents one week prior to Christmas.
‘I was notified Friday morning (Dec 15) via email and followed a couple hours later by a phone call that my father (91) was going to be removed from the special care home that he is residing at with my mother (89) this weekend.
‘I read this message over several times in disbelief of how can anyone be so cold and cruel to do this a week prior to Christmas.
‘My request during the day Friday was to simply extend my father’s residency until the end of this week.
‘However, my repeated request was ignored. Because I was unwilling to make a decision on his new location within a few hours a representative from Social Development and a representative from the Victoria Villa approached my parents and forced them to make the decision on their own.
‘My parents have been together for a total of 73 years and still sleep in the same bed. I feel people need to know what a flawed system we have in place. Two words describe it “unethical and cruel”. This transfer is schedule to occur tomorrow, as POA, I have NOT yet to be notified of final arrangements.
‘When talking to my parents yesterday I listened to my mother weep and I could hear my father in the background. My mother said “Christmas is over for us now and this is the worst Christmas that we will ever have. Why could they not have waited till after the holidays.” I assured her that I tried everything to keep them together a few more days.’
How horrible and cold!
Ms. Phillips venting didn’t stop with social media, she also went to CBC News and said:
‘At this time of year, the way things took place, I feel that is abuse to seniors. It’s emotional abuse. It might not be physical, but I do believe it is emotional.’
Christmas is emotional enough for families, especially older seniors. Did the home really have to force Herbert out before Christmas? Couldn’t they have waited one little week until after the couple celebrated Christmas?
Mr. Goodine had to move and now lives 30 minutes away. Sounds like he’ll be there for a good month too.
He said, ‘Well, if nothing happens to her, it’ll be good, because she’ll be rid of me for a little while.’
The story has caused so much outrage in Canada that Ms. Phillip’s post has been shared over 17,000 times.
I encourage you to share their story too, especially if you have more compassion at Christmas than this nursing home, and wish for this couple of over 73 years to spend what could be their last Christmas together.